first encounter
succinct introduction
promise of more
all arranged
high hopes
will this be the one
at the table now
one talking
the other nodding
until the topic
of procreation
suddenly a pause
a blush of uncertainty
human kids will not be
on the agenda
no rejection
no prejudice
relief and ease
childfree for life
made by choice
not by circumstance
date that turned into
lifelong companionship
unencumbered
someone asked
is there a reason
i don’t have a child
I just sighed
to myself
‘not again!’
who likes to answer
questions like that?
there is myriad of reasons
for every decision we make
whether conscious or not
yet when someone asks
there is not much to say
or it goes like this –
‘because of blablabla’
the other person
hears nothing
just feels the need
to explain and justify
their own situation
as they already
have kids
usually without
much prior thought
Poem ‘No Kiding’ read by the author.
Having been carrying infants for the length of my existence, I had the opportunity to experience lots of second hand emotions. There was joys, there were tears, there were upsets and clenched fists.
The most of my career I carried little Joe’s and Sandra’s until they were grown ups who left me as my shape and size where not fit for them anymore. I became used again by another newborn coming to earth and needing me to carry them around, until they fell asleep.
Now I am retired and my job with human off-springs have come to a close.
I found my second life mission helping an older lady. To carry her shopping bags.
I squeak with delight or perhaps with a little wear and tear as my used by date is near.
In the next lifetime, I plan on being a little different…
Instead of being a pram I would be happy as a golf buggy.
Now this is one piece that just came up for me as I reflected upon the choice in my life to stay Child-free. The below words may not resonate with everyone, I get that. Let’s just say it’s my personal lens on this still rather hot and controversial subject.
“No Child No Regret”
Parental expectations
At the heart of society
Push into relationships
Without true connection
Vested interest procreation
Fear of years passing by
The chase to fit in the mold
All girlfriends who pushed prams
Turned into tired mums
No chance of sleep and forget “me” time
Relationship suffers a blow
All we have is our choice
There is no good time for remorse
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If any of you reading this can relate to it, I would love to hear your thoughts on this subject. Is it a hot topic of discussion for you?
