THE TIME OF SWOOPING MAGPIES

It has been an interesting ride for me, this past two to three weeks. My brain had to undergo a number of shocks and to reset itself, after the ongoing energy that went through it.

Who doesn’t believe that we are energetic beings needs to learn about the use of electro-convulsive therapy. ECT, as it is commonly known, is rather controversial treatment and in many countries is forbidden. Here, in Australia, it is still however a common treatment of choice for stabilizing mental health.

What I learned afterwards is that it is administered in combination with a medication, which makes the patient lose memory. At least that was the explanation given to me by a nurse, when I complained about a loss of memory at around the time of ECT.

Now, you might or might not agree with the use of ECT. I had my brain changed by its use multitude of times in the last 9 years. I can say that it seems to be the one and only resource in the medical field, which seems to deliver some desired result.

So, whether I agree with the administering of the electrical current to my brain or not, whether I like to undergo a seizure of a kind or not; I have to admit, that its result is rather mysterious, yet desired. It happens to somewhat reset and bring back my commonly accepted behaviors and beliefs.

And the persona that is accepted in the society at large, as well functioning, returns upon the effect of the ECT.

Yes, I am blatantly stating that it works, even though no one actually understands why and how.

The vegetable, which I become, right after the treatment with ECT, slowly and mysteriously dissipates and I start to return to make ‘sense’ again. My faculty of cognition and logic returned and I was even able to talk the doctors out of further treatment.

And if you ask why I need the treatment in the first place, you might be surprised to learn the truth. The truth is, that since my Kundalini awakening experience back in 2009, I at times enter a state of being, a state of mind, where I become ‘a danger’ to myself. I stop eating, drinking and sleeping. In that state, I can communicate with others, still cognitive, yet elevated. I feel very high energetically and can be very physically and mentally strong during that time.

That state is not yet sustainable or accepted by others. So until I am able to sustain it and survive it in this body, I understand that I still need to receive a treatment for it.

And until there is a better and humanely more acceptable treatment other than ECT, I will have to endure its course.

May the energy flow through you in harmony.

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CRAZY BY NATURE, BLISSED OUT

I have a conviction I want to make today. It’s been some time, actually since the year 2009, since my ‘first awakening’. And today I want to talk a bit about what that means in my life experiences. People often hear about some form of ‘awakening’ on a regular basis, but what it really means for those involved?

I will tell you my personal recent example. Today is a rather special day for me. Just because I am still alive and breathing, cognitive and able to somehow function. It’s been very interesting past two and half weeks. My attendance in the mental health ward was truly somewhat different than the previous xx times. This time round, I went in there still functioning consciously very well , yet with a massive dose of energy that could not be contained. My body was up and running on Prana. I didn’t have the need for food, drink or sleep. That was very energy draining for my husband though, who didn’t get his needed sleep either. After a couple of days like that, he had no choice, but to take me to hospital.

Now, what happened with me there could be viewed as very distressing and hard to understand for anyone involved, especially myself. After some time on the open ward, I had been put into seclusion and it was not pretty at all. Not wanting to scare people off, or to sound very negative and frightening, I will try my best to provide the most objective overview of the situation.

The energy called Kundalini, or whatever one wishes to refer to it, was very high in me and as I was not allowed to ‘ride it’ I felt like caged animal. Due to consequently being treated with a doses of ECT, and the administering of some specific memory disturbing medication (about which I learned now from a nurse friend of mine) I have a loss of memory for about a week or so. However, saying that still makes me wonder, what specific behaviour did I do, that put me in danger of myself, that the doctors decided to put me into seclusion and treat me with ECT.

For some time after the ECT I was pure vegetable. Only some good healing time later I was back to my ‘commonly acceptable’ self, and able to reason and apply logic to my voice. And that was when the doctors listened to me and refrained from administering further doses of already agreed upon ECT. True relief was, that I was able to speak for myself acceptable well enough to change their regular form of treatment. I had challenged their methods for some time already, so it was nice to be respected for who I presented as.

While in the hospital ward, I met with some interesting people. Patients and nurses. Everyone was there for some reason, sometimes not knowing why. Yet the most important thing that I learned was that we are all in this together. The staff, the patients, the visitors, all. We are all threading our life path without instructions. Just living to our best knowledge and understanding of what life is about. Oftentimes keeping occupied, to avoid looking at the depth of our being. Avoiding feeling the many individual traumas that our life journey provided. Being part of life existence, being deeply touched by experiences and learning to teach ourselves the best possible way to drive our conscious existence.

Awakening as such is the process of shattering of the structured concept of the self and the others. The understanding through experience that there is the oneness of all there is, and that we are all part of it in our own uniqueness. The bursting out of seams of the conscious mind, reaching deep into the unconscious and subconscious and pulling out the weeds that got planted there. Awakening means different things to different people. To me it’s the above and beyond.

Now being back in the familiar environment that I cherish dearly, I appreciate the small things life provides. Like getting awake every morning. Like being able to breathe air. Like having a family that loves and accepts me with all the faults and quirks that I provide. That and more makes me grateful. Friends who are there for me when I feel that I need their attention.

I dare you to question your existence in a way that challenges your own beliefs. I dare you and me to live up to our best self, to be the true Self actualized. To self realize.

Find the truth of who you are and live that. I experience glimpses of my true higher self in the moments that felt blissful and free. The higher purpose of life is revealed in those moments of clarity and connection. There is more to life than the daily grind that we are often times part of.

Shed the shell of conditioning and find a path to the truth. It gets revealed through deeper experiences and often looks crazy to masses. I am here to shake my own concepts. To apply what I preach in my own life. To heal my broken being through understanding and attention.

Here I am, still crazy as ever and able to perceive the underlying fabric of life existence. Seeing the influence of life around me through my eyes and feeling the energy in my body. Being in the body, yet not the body. Moving air through my nostrils and keeping the body alive and functioning, unconsciously conscious.

Feel the air you breathe in and out in a moment of conscious living.

Breathe freely and live consciously.

SOLUTIONS RATHER THAN PROBLEMS

There are people who are able to see solutions before they even see anything closely related to a problem. And then there are others, who can ONLY see the problem. They actually see the problem in such a detail, that they create way more problems from the first one.

Now, I don’t know which one you relate to. You are blessed, if you can see yourself in the first scenario, being the person, who sees solutions rather than seeing problems. Frankly, I have been many times the problem seeker, who is in the second pool of people.

When something is presented to me as a grand idea my mind straight away does the following. It immediately starts to create the worst case scenarios and see all the problems associated with what could go wrong. Don’t get me wrong. This type of mental activity can be quite productive and helpful at times. For example when one needs to troubleshoot to test all the possible scenarios before execution of an idea. Well, then the thinking style that I learned can bring some needed warnings and perhaps even solutions that are good for the situation.

However, in the general scheme of things, it’s not exactly the most helpful of mental activities. The way things get done and how creations get created is by people I would call visionaries having a grand vision, usually beyond their time. When someone like that comes to an idea that is larger than their life, or perhaps at least larger than what the current reality is presenting to them, they start to fire up their mind with positive exciting activity. Creating a mental picture of the vision in a detail and as it would have already happened now.

One such person I can think of for the illustration purposes is Elon Musk. Most people at least heard of Elon. He is one of the, if not the greatest of, visionaries of our era. I definitely applaud and admire Elon’s perseverance and higher vision. And to drive the point home, he is not only a visionary, but gets stuff completed and on the roads.

My question to you and me now is: Are you a visionary? Or are you a whinge-nary?

Well, most of us would love to see ourselves as the first option. And if you happen to be in the whinge-nary category at the current moment, please note this.

Unless we recognize our own shortcomings, we are unable to best deal with them. It’s only when we come to realization that our mind is ‘soft’ wired to work in certain way, to create more problems, only since then we get the opportunity to change that.

There is still time to change. The first step on the way to change is awareness.

So rejoice as now you and I have an opportunity to recreate our mind to our desired way of thinking and being.

If you have some doubt, do some research about the science in the Neuroplasticity of the brain.

Until your next thought.

Alternative to Alcoholic beverages

WHEN ALCOHOL STARTED TO MAKE SENSE

If you think that this is another one of my confessions following the last few articles, you might be surprised. Yes, I am going to speak about drinking of alcohol and when it all started to make sense. However, it won’t be the story about getting sober after a night of drinking…

What I want to ponder about today with you is the following. The reasons for drinking of alcohol may seem to vary between individuals. Often having some form of alcoholic drink is seen as a nice touch to a well prepared meal.  Then there are occasions, like celebrations of any kind, where alcohol plays its celebrity status. And the last but not least of the groups of alcohol drinking occasions are those days and moments when people are just drinking for the sake of getting drunk.

So what about alcohol is so elusively attractive? I would like to share with you my discovery on alcohol drinking.

It’s not the fact, that it tastes good (which in most cases it DOESN’T, until one gets used to it, or drunk enough). It’s not even the fact, that it’s the drink of choice when socializing with others and we are often influenced by other peers to a drink.

The attractiveness of alcohol is simple.

It is the power of this etheric substance that brings our mind out of the controlling role and takes us away from our day to day issues. Most people, when they drink alcohol (perhaps a bit more than a half of a glass) start to feel like their troubles start to wash away; they become more confident in their expression and speech; their behavior starts to be more open and expressive.

Now, I will say that all of the above characteristics are not typical behavior for the person. They will show, however, their true personality traits revealed. The good, the bad, the ugly. All of it at once, sometimes.

When did alcohol start to make sense?

To answer that I will choose my own way of putting it. Alcohol made sense, because it is the ‘shortcut’, respectively a ‘quick fix’ to the feelings that people are yearning for. The feelings of joy; connection to something greater than themselves; acceptance of who they are; being in the moment; not having to worry about a single thing. The essence of alcohol drinking is to numb the controlling, nagging, always present conscious mind!

So saying all of the above, as a non-alcohol beverages drinker, I would like to offer an alternative to alcohol drinking. Can you relate to the above words and find alcohol relaxing? Then I would recommend you to try some form of relaxation, that doesn’t involve damage to your brain cells and slow destruction of your organs.

One of my suggested options to alcohol could be to try some non-alcoholic fermented drinks, for example Kombucha. That would be first step that would allow you to still enjoy the acquired taste of something tart and fizzy, without the side effects of alcohol consumption.

The next step would be to look at your thought patterns, in a way of self-discovery (read up on CBT if you like) and finding the reason behind the need to drink. And then find some relaxing music (that doesn’t make you emotionally charged), simple meditation or just plain rain drops or bird sounds to keep your mind occupied in a better way than drinking of alcohol.

And the last tip I would give you. If you feel pressure from your peers to have a drink as a social gesture, please find other friends. If that is not possible, be the friend that brings in a few bottles of Kombucha and offer it to others as an alternative to alcohol (perhaps not even saying that it’s non-alcoholic if you prefer).

Sober and joyous life.

FROM “RICHES TO RAGS”, THE ROAD THROUGH HELL

Growing up in the time Czechoslovakia was under the communist regime sure was different from the freedom there is now. So while there were many restrictions, I learned that resilience is the key to overcoming obstacles, to keep my mouth shut when not asked, to be invisible, and that there are both borders and boundaries defining everything.

While at college I was part of the demonstrators against the communist government. At times we faced human shielded barriers and were expecting tanks to come rolling down at us. Fortunately for us all the time was right and the communist regime fell down before our eyes.

Later on after college I took on a few good jobs. English was still not a commonly used international language like it is today. Nudged by my parents I went to London  for a year to study English.

While there I supported my studies by living with, and looking after, two young girls. Childcare was never my strength. The younger girl was at times so challenging, that I would leave them both downstairs playing and watching TV and locked myself in my room upstairs.

One day I was so tired after a long weekend partying, that I slept when the family came home without keys. As they could not get in, the younger girl had to climb through an upstairs window to get home. All I recall was her entering my room, and as I was still asleep she screamed on the top of her lungs: “HANAAAA”! That much for my child minding qualities.

Upon return back to Prague I worked in a few good jobs and then found my way to the finance department of the British Embassy in Prague. A dream job working in a prestigious organization; with lovely group of people, meeting some well-known authorities. Among them was a quick personal chat with Prince Charles when he visited. I also assisted with the convoy transport of the delegates of NATO summit in Prague, having a great opportunity to enter the Air Force One plane while the crew was having a break.

All that was just perfect. However, I knew that if I stayed in that job, not much would change. I would most likely retire there and would still live with my parents.

So at a spur of a moment, I decided to take a chance and travel to the other side of the world to go to my friend’s wedding. It is a long journey so I decided to make the best of it and arranged to stay for the whole year. Not at my friends place of course, as that would be overstaying my welcome.

The first 6 months were tough learning. I went from a high profile jobs in Prague to not being able to find work in my field. Everywhere I asked, they told me they wanted someone with ‘local experience’. After some searching I took a job in hospitality, preparing sandwiches.

Coincidence had it that after some time making delicious sandwiches I was offered to run an overseas student agency in Sydney. One thing led to another and soon enough I have met Rado. Now, as it turned out, he was a great reason to stay in Australia. So I did extend my stay for another year, then another few, and later on made it permanent.

We happily settled in windy Sydney and later moved to sunny Brisbane. Life was good most of the time. Then in 2008 I went to all the possible and impossible seminars out there. Whether it was healing, investing or internet marketing, I’d done them all. After the massive dose of personal development, I left my corporate carrier and started my own healing venture. That seemed to be a bad move at first, as my confidence in my skills was lower than that of my clients.

So after a while at my home office, I fell into a depression which lasted for a few months.

Then I regained strength and trust in life and found an interesting retreat that promised (in my mind) the ultimate peace of mind and well-being on all levels. So I eagerly signed up.

After 6 days in total silence I was in total bliss. THEN ON DAY 8 MY WORLD SHATTERED.

Several years later I was still in the midst of the mental upheaval that had spun from the retreat.

I went through a massive dose of depression on several occasions, only to find out that depression is a sign of changing values and beliefs about our world construct and us.

The hopelessness that I felt back in those days was only understood by those who once went through it. There was no rational reason for me to be depressed. I had the life of other people’s dreams. And still… or maybe just because of that… I felt life was pointless and each day was a dreaded nightmare. That feeling lasted for some time. Understand months and years.

Then, after the worse passed and with a lot of support, I was back on my feet and ‘right in my head’. To be back to normal state of the mind was such a bonus. I felt recharged and regained some of my former self, with a new zest for living.

Only when I could see and accepted that I was actually fine, that life was worthy living, that people cared and that I had a mission to live, I recovered.

I found my calling in guiding others. In writing articles, blogs and books, coaching and teaching. I love the AHA moments of clarity, when things just come together. There is the deeper knowing, which means the truth is being revealed. Whether that is during writing of a text or the coaching session, it’s one of the most profound moments offered on the journey of self-discovery.

My mission is to live as an example of recovery, assist to found joy in life, help others create a future by design and trust in the higher power to deliver it.

May you be inspired and find your truth and joy.

ALL RELATIONSHIP ISSUES SOLVED!

When it comes to relationships, there are many in our lives. There are many people in different relationships to us. Some people are in relationship with us and we call them family. Others we have a different type of relationship with and call them friends.

Another kind of relationship we might have with someone in a position of authority. Perhaps a doctor, coach, landlady, or teacher. Whatever the reason we are interacting with another person on a regular basis, we tend to enter into some form of a relationship with them.

The best thing about relationships is, as many of you might have realized, that they are usually involving two and more people. Yet, we also have some kind of a relationship with ourselves.

What I want to discuss with you today, is how we are handling these interactions with other people. Whether with family, friends, or others in our life.

I will give you an example here.

Here we have Betty and her partner of many years, Don. Betty loves Don and Don loves Betty. Let’s start with Betty.

Betty has been feeling a  bit frustrated lately. When we examine it closer, the reason Betty is not happy is because Don doesn’t pay much attention to Betty. At least not as much as he used to.  Don, who is at work the whole day, is fairly happy just to crash on the couch, watch some TV, have a beer and go to sleep.

Betty tries to talk to Don, but as she is not getting the kind of interaction that she would be pleased with, she soon stops her attempts to start the talk. As a result, she starts to look for another way to feel better and to fill the void. Betty finds herself a solution. She goes to shops and buys designers clothing.

When Betty shows Don her newly bought treasures, at least there she generates some form of interaction between her and Don. It might also mean, that Don will have to look at her in her bright new outfit, and might even compliment her.

From the above scenario, we can see that Betty is finding another way of getting to feel better. However, avoiding the real issue.

Now, here is Don.

Don doesn’t usually tend to express much, in terms of feelings and emotions. He doesn’t tend to talk much with Betty, as he doesn’t think she can understand him. Don is sometimes upset that Betty does things without his consent, but he doesn’t talk about it much.

Don thinks life is a struggle and one has to build up resilience and overcome the struggle by being virtuous. So he tries his best to live a virtuous existence. At times, Don’s internal pressure valve bursts open and the steam comes out with others around him.

Look at Betty and Don. Are you able to perhaps see anyone you know in this example?

Now let me tell you how I see this scenario from the external viewpoint. And what would serve best both Betty and Don.

Betty and Don had become a bit intertwined with each other over the years. And truly, that happens to many of us, when we live with someone long enough.

At the beginning, we spoke about the different reasons we all enter into relationships. The partnership relationship is one that many of us, or at least some of us, will go through in this life.

We learn very young how relationships are, by observing people around us. Then when we are growing up, we learn from other sources like media. The mixture of these is indeed a big influence on how we form and handle our own relationships.

Have you ever heard yourself say something to another, and then realized that you just sounded like one of your parents or carer?

So how to best deal with conflicts and issues underlying the often overlooked problems, before they snowball into a bigger problem in our relationship?

The best way about building lasting and fulfilling relationship is to start with oneself. When we are still single and at the stage when we dream about the other half. That is the time we need to start building a strong relationship with oneself.

What does that look like?

When we learn to understand, that the reason we would like to be in a relationship is for the beautiful shared moments of peace and harmony, of joy and content with life, of excitement from living and sharing this existence with another being. Then the person of such a confidence with life, is ready to attract their match.

On the other hand, when we come to partnership relationship from needs and expectations on the other person, we don’t come from a place of wholeness and love. Then the other person we attract to ourselves is also in the same boat. They are responding to the energetic vibration we are sending (we could call it a certain degree of low self-confidence, lack of self-love and desire for any kind of personal attachment).

The true solution to Betty and Don is to go back to their own basic needs and fulfill them with self-love. They, and we all, can be sure to do ourselves a big favor, when we come back and start the journey within.

And if that all sounds too airy fairy, then perhaps just have a power session at the gym and couple of green smoothies, before delving into the unknown field of self exploration and self-help.

I wish you the best new self discoveries. As we all can benefit from some more meditation, internal observing, reflection and self-awareness.

Live well aware.

 

 

 

 

COMING OUT OF THE CLOSET

Here it is! A breakthrough announcement. Let me tell you the story, so you know which closet it’s coming from.

There was a time in my life when things were not this smooth, but rather purely crazy. My relationships were an orderly chaos for many years. I actually made a bet that I will not marry. The partnerships that I got into were not very suitable for me and my work life was just a daily endeavor that kept me in a state of limbo for a long time. I had been living that way for too long, until I could not breathe in that life any longer.

The meaning of my life was a blur. Acting according to societal expectations, ingrained into me through my upbringing. I lived unaware of what this existence was all about. What I was all about. What my life meant and what was I here for.

When conformity became way too big a burden to drag around I packed one bag and left my country of origin. On my own. I knew nobody, where I was heading and I didn’t quite have a clue what I will do.

What kept me going was the need for a change of scenery. The need to get out of the uncomfortable feeling I had in the so called comfort zone. If I stayed where I was, nothing seemed to ever improve. So I had to carve my own life path.

The new beginning  in a new country was not easy. However, even through the first few years I was fairly stable and solid in my opinions about life and how I wanted to live it.

I met some interesting people on my journey and took upon a few opportunities and it all started to come together and bring me a new sense of belonging and identity. Things started to work out nicely. Until…

Until life had a joke up its sleeve for me and I was about to learn more about it.

Then one day I browsed the internet for places to go on holidays. I stumbled upon a 10 days silent meditation retreat, which was called Vipassana. My curious mind was engaged and once I found a bit more about it I was hooked. I wanted to try it. I was both daring and intrigued. To spend 10 days in complete silence, without any eye contact, with no sex, no writing, no technology, no books, no exercise, no alcohol, no drugs, no music…no distractions.

Well, it didn’t take much for me to decide to do it.

The retreat was set in a forest, in an environment of peaceful surroundings and wild wallabies, birds and other creatures. Just perfect set for such an intense 10 days meditation course.

I will skip the details of the retreat story here, and get to the point I want to make here.

My life shattered on that retreat. It was wild, crazy, deep, moving, painful and enlightening ride. I survived physically, yet everything in my psyche fell apart and re-birthed itself anew. It blew my mind, literally.

Life after the retreat was not in any shape or form the same as before.

The belief structures that were so well ingrained in my psyche shattered into millions of lights. Life suddenly made sense.

To know what I am talking about here exactly, you can Google these two words “Kundalini Awakening”, respectively for more descriptive detail of the events, you might want to read the book “Driven By Kundalini”.

I went from being a rather strong and solid practical personality for most years, to finding myself in the center of the whole universal life energy. Bliss is a good way to describe the state of mind, when our mind gets out of the way and the energies there are present and moving upwards.

Experience the eternity in a moment is the best I can call it. Hell and heavens meeting point.

What actually happened was that I ended up hospitalized and locked up in the ICU intensity care unit.

And that was just the beginning …

To leave you with some sort of wisdom from all this. Here is what I know now.

Life is best lived. Until we stretch our thinking mind, we don’t grow. Without support of the right kind, we might not progress as expected.

Let life be what it is, without expectations and attachments to the past or the future.

Be aware.

 

 

 

WHY COACHES NEED COACHES

Today I had a very long and productive discussion with my friendly ‘life coach’. We first sat down for only a short chat and a cuppa. Then many hours later we were still fully immersed in our conversation. It was an emotion filled roller coaster ride.

I absolutely hated and loved it at the same time, as it was intense in stages and I don’t like me being intense with others, especially people I respect and like. However, this talk was also very reassuring and encouraging for me as I had some significant aha moments through it. Not to bog you down in the details, I redefined and reorganized some of my own values and priorities, limiting beliefs and fears. Now, that in itself was a very valuable lesson.

Afterwards, we reconciled what was most important from the session and I went away assured knowing clearly that my ‘coach friend’ also had a lot of aha moments for themselves. It was a meeting from heaven to hell and back on track.

My learning from this is, besides the above mentioned point of our conversation, that even coaches need coaches to show us the blind spots and sometimes pure lies we have been believing. Whether it be about our own abilities, skills, perceptions, beliefs or opinions. Having a life coach can help in every situation. Having my ‘coach’ meet me today, when I did need them even without knowing really why at the start, showed me something else as well. How we might sometimes live life without being aware when we need to ask for help. Also how a different perspective and respect can do miracles.

Life coaching can help us to get to the many aha moments in our life story. To bring forth the stuff that is undesirable in us and to recognize our truth. Other person’s perspective can show us the mirror that we need to see for our beliefs, especially those that act as a limiting force in our behavior.

So thank you my dear ‘life coach’ for such a great talk today. What we both seem to agreed upon is that we are all in a way guided by greater force than ourselves and both the places we find ourselves going to and people we meet are there for a reason. Sometimes we might not know straight away what the reason is. And connecting this to the bigger picture, it helps us to recognize that this life is truly given to us with a secret underlying guidance.

My recommendation from today is: “If you can’t figure life on your own, find someone to have a deep conversation with.”

Be aware and watch the space between your thoughts.

 

 

 

 

 

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REBALANCE, RECHARGE, REDESIGN YOUR LIFE

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Now when I say I can work fast, I mean light speed! 🙂

This is the newly born upcoming retreat that Kathy and I will be running in May in Brisbane.

If you know of anyone who could benefit by attending, you may send them to the events page on FB or Eventbrite.com.au.

Respectively write us a message directly below this post.

Here are the details of the day.

An empowering day retreat for you if you are looking to

Rebalance, Recharge and Redesign your life.

What you will gain:

* A new roadmap for your life
* More clarity about your future
* Calm down your mind
* Create a desired vision
* Get away from the stress of life
* Promote healing of your body

What we provide:

* Comfortable group size
* Fun and easy to do activities
* Engaging and inclusive space
* Manual for life included

Plus years of experience and study of healing modalities, spiritual wisdom and personal development practices that work in everyday life.

Location of the retreat is in Everton park, North Brisbane.
Facilitated by Hana Rubinstejnova & Katherine Steevens.

Full price of this retreat is $199.

Book & pay by 1 April 2018 to get an early bird price ONLY $79.

 

 

 

 

 

NUDGED TO CREATE RETREATS

I guess this idea has been in the vortex of creation for a long time. To offer day retreats of a kind eventually. The concept was not anything new to me, as I have been pondering about such an idea many years ago. However, only just recently all things fell into place and it clicked.

Last year I co-authored (with a ‘Life Mastery’ Coach Katherine Steevens) and had published the “manual for a happy life”, aka book called “Design your future and create your dream life“. In the making of this book, we had a desire to make a whole program associated with our learnings. At the end of the year 2017, the book was ready for a wider distribution.

Now Katherine and I are in the process of offering our own signature day retreats to small groups of seekers. The process is underway, so if you are interested to learn more about either our upcoming events or our manual for a happy life, follow this site, respectively contact us through the form below.

During these retreats we will share what we learned on our way through life, the techniques that work and the teachings that inspired us to grow. They will be interactive, engaging and empowering. We also aim to initiate growth, which will lead to new opportunities.

If you are feeling inspired, like this post/follow this site/get our book (link above) and spread a word about us.

Focus and awareness.

 

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THE BEST THING ABOUT LIFE IS…

How does this sentence continue when you are the writer? How many endings can you come up with?

What are the possibilities? Let’s ponder …

The best thing about life is…

The best thing about life is that it’s one opportunity not to be missed.

The best thing about life is that it is a limited edition and so forth valuable.

The best thing about life is each morning I get to wake up.

The best thing about life is living it.

The best thing about life is there are unlimited possibilities of how it will look like.

The best thing about life is having a loving family.

The best thing about life is giving.

The best thing about life is it’s unforgettable.

The best thing about life is the magical moments of creation.

The best thing about life is there are other people to talk to.

The best thing about life is it’s unpredictable.

The best thing about life is it is like an exciting book.
It has beginning, middle and end.

The best thing about life is the creation of nature.

The best thing about life is it’s free to start with.

The best thing about life is we only have to do it once in this form.

The best thing about life is we get to repeat our mistakes until we learn from them.

The best thing about life is people who spread love.

The best thing about life is it never ceases to exist.

The best thing about life is when one overcomes a challenge.

(I would love to read your comments below this article)

psychosomatic therapy and face reading

YOU ARE FULL OF MEMORIES AND WISDOM

What I know is that on some level you know that you are not just your body. If this sounds too far-fetched, there is some deep learning for you to do about who you truly are. What this translates to is that we live INSIDE our body.

Look at it this way. Who is running your heart? Who pumps the blood into the veins? Who is doing your breath? Who keeps you alive while you sleep?

All answers point to this. There is another level of your being than your physical body.

What I want to touch upon today is the structure of your physical body.

In my view, the reason we HAVE a body is to be able to experience the joys of this reality and to have a place to store the memories of our experiences.

Yes, the actual past memories of our experiences are stored inside the body. Metaphorically speaking, your past is burned into the cells of your body!

Let’s test it. Just remember the last time you felt joyous and elated. Or another time, when you felt quite disappointed. Do real memories come up to your mind’s eye?

As these memories rise above inside you, they are either released or dealt with at this time or they are pushed back inside. If the latter is the case, they are stored inside your body until you are ready to proceed with them and let the feelings from the past experiences go.

This is not just a pretty theory. It’s the very basis of our body structure.

When we were born our body was a rather pliable and soft. Then we started to experience the variety of situations in this life existence, it made us feel a certain way. The feelings that we had produced a certain chemicals in the brain and these chemicals travel inside the body to create a physical response, which leads to a certain external behavior.

Now, this has been repeatedly happening since then until this moment in time and onward. We have a physical body that reflects upon the internal feelings and emotions that we have during this lifelong journey.

No wonder there is a whole field of study, dedicated to Face and body readings, Psychosomatic Therapy and Body language.

Our body tells a story of our life

What is our body saying to the world?

The fact that our body speaks louder than our words is undeniable. Besides the obvious personality traits, that can be seen in a certain face shapes and postures. There are other subtle messages, which can be read by well-trained eyes.  These subtle messages show in each and every part of our physical tissues. They can be read even from our wisdom lines and the shapes and forms on our face and body.

What does that tell you?

If you admire a physical feature on another person, know that it speaks volumes about their past conditioning and environment influences. And if you do not like any feature about your own body, know that its reason for being that way is the storage of unresolved memories and perceived fears.

And if you still have a bit of trouble believing me, just think about this example.

What happens to your face, when you smile a lot, and are happy for many years? How does it influence the shape of your facial tissues and lines?

What happens when someone cries and is sad all the time? How is that shaping their face?

Body Structure under pressure

Reflect upon the well-known fact, that people who are clinically depressed for a long time have a certain hunched body posture. Their face also shows signs of sadness and sometimes hopelessness.

Learn to Love Your Body As Is

The most crucial part in our healthy body image is the absolute acceptance of the shape and structure of the body we are in now. If you are finding it hard to love all the parts of your body the way they are, just remember, that this body is the only vehicle we have in this lifetime.

It’s been here with us since the beginning and will be here until our last breath. Learn to love it the way it is. And with acceptance and care comes a new understanding, new self-worth, a new image.

The internal world is memory storage of the external world.

Step Forward Into a Healthy Future

When we learn to first understand and then fully accept and love our own body with all the signs of wear and tear, we slowly but surely learn to live in a peaceful internal environment.

Peace and let go of the past hurts. Shape a new body!

WE ARE WHO WE THINK WE ARE

If you haven’t heard that concept before, you might be a little surprised to learn it.

In fact, it’s not an accurate description of who we truly are in the core of our being. However, the person who gets presented externally to others is a reflection upon the internal representation of our self. That ‘image’ which we hold so close to our heart. Let’s cover this in more detail.

How would you describe yourself? Who are you? What defines you?

Ok, let me help you here. Say you think about yourself that you are a smart cookie. Let’s say you think you are very resourceful. Or you think you are too short or too tall for your age. Another perceived ‘fact’ of your persona could be that you are not beautiful enough. Or that you are always clumsy.

All of the above identifiers show in your external behavior. They also come across in your speech. And as energy follows thought this creates your reality.

What we believe about ourselves, who we believe we are, we recreate externally.

And if you want to test it, think about the traits of someone you either like or dislike. What are their qualities? What makes them likeable to you?

What you might have thought someone was, is just who they show you to be.

I will stretch this concept a little further. We only see in others, what we have inside of ourselves.

The true is that if you like a trait in a person, you have the same quality inside of you. What might have happened is that you are unaware of this being your trait.

So, I suggest you bring awareness to what personalities you are drawn to and what you are trying to avoid.

That will be a good indicator of your own internal qualities and dislikes.

The Good Part Being

In reality, we are much more than what we perceive to be. However, to get to a point, when we can actually really change into the person we would admire and would like to become, we need to realize who we are being now. With awareness comes realization and possibility for change.

Becoming the ideal self is a mastery journey. Most of us have some form of unwanted traits, which we mastered unconsciously, during an early form of social conditioning. That is, however, not an excuse for keeping it that way forever. We have the capacity to change. We can become the person we admire.

Becoming aware of our own internal representations, who we PERCEIVE ourselves to be, is a great step forward. Start today. Look inside and realize who you had been thinking you were!

Stretch your imagination to the heights of possibility and design the person you would love being.

The one you are waiting for is you.

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WHO IS YOUR REAL ENEMY?

This might seem to be a question that you think you know the answer to. If anyone popped up in your mind when reading the question they surely would not make it to a list of people you would rely on.

Life is an interesting adventure. Some call it a game. Others think this life is a punishment. Whatever is your take on life, life is best lived. Life challenges make us grow stronger wings. And flying is the ultimate of gifts which we don’t seem to be mastering without an engine. At least not yet.

So, who really is your ultimate enemy?

Enemy, who wakes you up in sweat in the middle of the night. Enemy, whose voice is so difficult to hear. The one who seems to know you so well. The one who doesn’t let you go anywhere on your own. You are never alone. They are watching every step, every breath you take.

WHO is it?

See if you can relate: Your INTERNAL critic! The voice that we hear every day, almost in every moment of our waking time.
Criticizing our past decisions, actions, future endeavours, ideas…and in the process, creating insecurities and anxieties.

Now, if you don’t have one of these internal voices, you are a very fortunate being.

However, for those of you, who can relate to the above here are some personal tips and well known strategies.

How to deal with your enemy with some extraordinary strategies

  1. Accept it as part of your personal journey.
  2. Recall who in your past could have the same kind of voice.
  3. Learn to change the tonality in which their voice speaks to you.
  4. Bring some fun into their existence (e.g. in your mind’s eye, imagine it as a movie character with a husky voice).
  5. Turn an imaginary knob and tune out the sound of this voice and replace it by some harmonious sounds.
  6. Appreciate that its primary function was to preserve your safety.
  7. Kindly explain to the voice (only in your head preferably) that you will be fine even without his suggestions.
  8. As the saying goes: “Feel the fear and do it anyway!”
  9. Become aware of when the voice takes over your moments.
  10. Learn to love the ‘enemy’.
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THE SECRET FOR NEVER ENDING SUCCESS AND EVER LASTING HAPPINESS

Have you been wondering what a key for success is?

Did you ever think “When I get xy …It will make me happy?”

Whether we look at our activities, our relationships, our finances or our personal achievement there is one common denominator.

We first need to define what we consider to be SUCCESS and even what does HAPPY mean to us. My personal definition of success is not so much what I GET, but rather who I AM and more still WHO I BECOME in the process of doing something. The becoming is the most important part.  And what does happy mean? Happiness for me is e.g. a leisurely walk on the beach, in a great company. The fresh sea air, pleasant water temperature and no jellyfish or stone-fish in sight.

I would like to point out some common misconceptions relating to mistakes we can make about our striving for success and happiness.

AVOID COMMON MISTAKES

Often times we happen to get our eyes on an object (be it a material item of any kind, or a person) and we then start to feel that we will only be successful/happy if we achieve the acquisition of this object.

Now let me share something with you. What I understood from the variety of teachings from personal development, spirituality, therapy and healing modalities that I have researched over the years…is this.

There is NOT a material thing, nor a person out there, who would bring us the never ending happiness and forever lasting success.

Please understand. There are many people who cross our life paths, some of whom we might believe can make us forever happy. And many items, that we cherish and value and which can be useful and even just pleasant to have. However, what I am talking about is the feeling of success and happiness that are NEVER ENDING = LASTING. Is that possible at all?

I will give you an example.

Say you finally found the person you fall in love with. You are both in love with each other and feel at the top of the world. When one day later on, in the life of you two, there comes difference of opinions about something that may seem rather fundamental. Is your love strong enough to withstand the difference of ideas and opinions? Or are your mental observations so important that you would rather trow in the towel into the ring of the relationship?

At that time, where is the level of your happiness and success that you so very much felt at the beginning of the relationship?

Here is another illustrative example:

For a very long time you dream about having something. Let’s say it’s a certain car. You have been putting it out there into the Universe, asking to be the new owner of that car. You dream about having this car and how happy you would be when you own that car. Then the day actually comes, when you do have the opportunity to get this car. You are over the moon and so happy that you realized that dream. You want to share your happiness with everyone.

However, the happiness doesn’t last forever. After a while the so new attributes of this car become everyday use and even ordinary. You start to crave something new, which now seems to be just the perfect thing to make you happy… Can you start to see the pattern?

Even if you believe that this is the final missing part, it never is that way!

WHAT IS THE SECRET DOOR TO HAPPINESS AND SUCCESS?

Is there such a ‘thing’ as never ending happiness and ever-lasting success?

You may have answered ‘Yes’ or ‘No’ to the above question. I would like to suggest that there indeed is a way.

What I would suggest is that we start from within. Before we set our eyes on something ‘that would surely make us happy’, we first find the best possible feeling of happiness inside. Let’s start from the point of being happy, and then look at things with fresh perspective. Not as something we NEED to get in life to BECOME happy or a success.

In case that you are struggling with the idea of being happy in the first place, try this out.

THE HAPPINESS INDULGENCE

Sit in a quiet place, or put on a meditative music or a calm piano music and close your eyes.

Think back to the time when you were really happy… First event like that that comes to mind.

In your memories, return to the place where you were back then and think about what was happening at the time around you.

Recall as much detail as possible. What were you doing, was anyone else there, what was the weather like, what environment was surrounding you.

How do you feel?

Now, in this moment, you might be very close to feeling the same feeling like back then…and if so, the same chemical reaction is happening in your body.

This happiness evoking is what we might call ‘The Happiness Indulgence’.

Do this exercise as often as you like. You might start to feel better straight away, or perhaps after the second time you try this. That is all fine. Give it a go and be happy as often as you can recall.

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And if you still seek the never ending success and ever-lasting happiness, start with the above exercise. After you already FEEL HAPPY consider it to be the one great success to start with.

From an empowered and uplifted mind, life will be easier.

hand made crochet toys

10 Things to Celebrate About Crochet

Crochet might be sometimes misjudged as a bit of a “craft from the past”, thought to be perpetuated mainly by keen Grandmothers. This has been mainly due to lack of knowledge and understanding.

Crochet has a capacity to bring joy and happiness, as well as warmth, to those involved in making it and the receiver of the item.

The misconception about the age of crocheters is also being slowly shattered, especially in crochet communities which are now being visited by the younger generation of crochet enthusiasts.

While overseas there is still the need for heavy warm woolen garments, especially in the midst of freezing winter blizzard, here in Australia we don’t need such items in most places. There might not be many occasions to use rich woolen garments. However, there are still plenty of useful everyday items and toys, which are being masterfully designed and created out of the variety of available yarn.

If it was receiving a fair judgment, crochet would be acknowledged as much as paintings or other forms of art and craft.

Before we can bring forth a change in the views of the majority about crochet, we need to be able to celebrate our own little wins and achievements.

Little Big Wins and Achievements

The ever growing body of evidence shows that when we appreciate and celebrate something we already do have, we will get even more of it. This applies even to crochet. Below are a few suggestions, which can help to bring your focus on the many things to celebrate about crochet.

The list is not exhausted, and if you are keen crochet enthusiast you might come up with more suggestions.

10 things to celebrate, when it comes to crochet:

  1. You have a dedicated place where you crochet
    2. The yarn you have bought was sufficient for the whole item
    3. You only made a few invisible mistakes in your project, so there is no need to frog it
    4. You already own more yarn than you could ever use
    5. Sale in your yarn store
    6. You have a few ergonomic hooks
    7. You happen to get your crochet, with a cutter on a plane, without trouble
    8. Going away you packed just enough yarn you happen to need
    9. There is the option to buy yarn online and have it delivered to your home
    10. Your family is tolerating your craft supplies and ever growing stash

If you already experienced any of the above, please raise a glass of your favorite non-alcoholic beverage. In case that you experienced ALL of the above, take it a bit further and call upon your friends, and invite them to celebrate with you. Share the love and spread the word.

Crochet is a form of meditation, helping to keep me sane in this world, while I love its creative flow. So while sometimes it could be looked down at by others, there are still many reasons to value it as a modern day craft, and even as a form of craft therapy.

If you are keen on crochet and happen to be in Brisbane (Australia) here is our great Facebook group ‘Brisbane Crochet’. https://www.facebook.com/BrisbaneCrochet

Happy hooking!

mental health

The Importance of Mental Health

Cranberries lead singer Dolores O’Riordan suddenly died on Monday at the age of 46.
Now for all fans of Cranberries that are some shocking news.

Why is it so significant news for me though?

Not only did I like their songs, but there is another part in the story that interests me more than Dolores’s singing. And that is the mysterious reasons behind her untimely death.

It is still very early to know all the details (if we ever truly will know) surrounding her passing, yet some information is known already.

Dolores was diagnosed with Mental health issues, called ‘Bipolar Disorder’ only just about two years ago. However, her mood changes started a long time before that. When she would have felt on the top of the world (this is called mania) at some stage (pun not intended) and it would last for about 3 months or so. After that time Dolores would fall into depression. This is a common swing of moods in people with mental disorder called Bipolar.

What interested me in the articles where I read about her passing is, that she claimed to have been TREATED for this Bipolar disorder.

How Well Are We Treated For Death?

What that can mean for someone suffering the same symptoms is that they might not have been diagnosed yet and/or treated appropriately. What I meant by ‘appropriate treatment’ will be left to your imagination.

I would love to state that there are different forms of treatment for such an illness. However, most people in our western cultures are finding the final help in the hands of a psychiatrists. In the ideal culture, these symptoms would be understood as a change of perception and a break through the belief structures of the individual.

Now, my own question is “How do we educate people well enough to be able to foresee the signs of overall change of personality? And how to best deal with it naturally, without the need for chemical substances and locking the person up from their life?”

There is still a lot of stigma associated with mental illnesses. When more people come out of the closet and start to share their story and what it actually means to deal with some form of mental health issues, we will have more general understanding of the situation and how to best be of assistance.

In the meantime, please be open to learning more about the experiences of people with mental health issues. And if you know about someone in your environment who needs help with any aspect of their mental health, please be kind enough to point them in the direction of a suitable professional help in your location.

Breathe freely.

Sources:

http://www.tmz.com/2018/01/15/cranberries-dolores-oriordan-dead-dies/

http://www.smh.com.au/entertainment/music/the-cranberries-lead-singer-dolores-oriordan-dead-at-46-20180115-h0iriy.html

 

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The Journey Back To My Heart

Imagine the day has come when you are finally surrounded by everything you ever wanted. You own all the luxuries and gadgets you so long dreamed about.

Now you look at it all and ask yourself: What is the one most treasured item in my possession? And once you locate that item in your life, ask yourself another question: Is it within the power of the item to bring me the ultimate happiness? Or will it provide only a transient feeling of temporary elation?

The teachers out there teach that gratitude and still more gratitude is the new-found key to personal fulfillment and more satisfying experiences and things.

And with that another question surfaced to my mind.

Is more ‘material stuff’ ever going to satisfy our deep human needs?

There is, inside me, a subtle flame, a feeling, a sense, that this is all transient and surface level happiness. The real ‘stuff’, the true joy in life, is elsewhere.

All things that we collect and surround ourselves with, might have a practical application, a reason for being. Whether it be a tool, a vehicle, a shelter, a piece of clothing, a food, a drink etc. All of it provides a desired function. And from that function, we are rewarded with feelings of comfort, and what perhaps could even be called well-being.

Yet, unless we also feel personal connection, a feeling of acceptance and feeling of self-worth plus more of similar feelings; despite all the ‘material stuff’ there is still an emptiness inside of us.

How do we then navigate from the overstimulated desire ‘to have’ to our more subtle desire of being whole?

So how to start the journey to our heart’s true fulfilled desires?

Let’s see if I have the correct strategic answers to that…

The Fulfillment Strategy

1) Let’s start by appreciating the whole journey called life. The miracle of life is very underrated by us all. Unless we step out of our individual perspective and come to see life from a broader perspective of planets, universes and energy, we might not realize the opportunity we have been given, by being alive here and now.

2) Next, let’s start by accepting ourselves the way we are now….with any perceived flaws and imperfections we might think about at times. And without the need to compare ourselves to anyone else, even us, in the past ! (yes, that’s truly hard, I know!)

3) What you might find helpful, is this practice. Once a week, find a quiet spot, sit for a few minutes just by yourself and do simple breathing exercises. Close your eyes and put your focus on your breath. Appreciate life force for each breath you are graciously receiving. And let go of any tensions you might have accumulated in your body.

When I have some discomfort, I focus my attention on my breath. And I try to let my thoughts slide inside without grabbing them by their horns.

Once we have come to the center of our being, life seems to flow through us.

So, what do I see as the key to my living happiness and joy?

Coming home to my true self, being unique and authentic in being ‘me’ with all that comes with that package.

Relaxing in the knowing that all is transient, even unwanted undesirable feelings or worries.

As you surely would know, our past colors our present, yet might not determine our future.

All shall pass. So, with that, enjoy each breath while it’s still FREE!

Breath freely!

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In joy and health

 

 

Shock therapy

ECT aka Shock treatment – Barbaric or Helpful?

Scrolling through Facebook last night I came across a blog post by Dr. Caroline Leaf, specializing in Neuropsychology, who in her blog wrote about ECT treatments for mental illnesses. Now, Dr. Leaf’s blog post was not too long to get the full story, but in essence I felt there is rather strong disagreement with the general use of Electro-Convulsive Therapy.

Please know, that I do love and appreciate the work on the neuroplasticity of the human brain of Dr. Caroline Leaf and all of her wisdom.

As an advocate for a broader mental health awareness, and also someone, who experienced ECT several times on my own brain (the latest one in Jan 2017), here is my viewpoint on this controversial subject:

My experience with Electro Shocks

Despite the fact, that the ‘ECT treatment’ I received was always administered without my, or my family’s consent while I was unwell, now I would say it had its place. Upon reflection on it, if it was not for the ECT’s (given to me during several different hospital admissions and only after all other efforts using medication failed) there was a high chance that I may have not recovered so quickly from what was very debilitating and hard to manage condition.

The shock treatment has had for a very long time, a very bad reputation. To me that is mainly due to its portraying in the media for its past administration without the use of anesthetics and relaxants. That could be the very scary bit, that nobody would like to experience. However, nowadays it is given with full body anesthetic and relaxants injected into the bloodstream of the ‘poor’ patient. One goes to sleep long before the electrodes touch the head and wakes up afterwards without any pain. Just like after other successful operation.

So the barbaric associations that this ‘treatment’ has in the society is a little bit unfair. This is also due to the “One fly over the Cuckoo’s nest” movie, that had its place in showing the bad aspects of mental institutions back in the day. Nowadays, there are still surely not a place one likes to be held in, however, it all comes down to having good doctors and nurses, who make the big difference in any hospital environment.

Side Effects of ECT

While ‘my’ first ECT had a significant effect on memory loss and some other cognitive functioning, which affected my work abilities and my confidence, I am now able to express gratitude and accept this as one of the more effective methods of the mental health industry. Overall I had several instances when it was the last resort used by the treatment team and it was actually the one thing that really worked.

So unless you had ECT on yourself, please do not spread more fear and misunderstanding about it. There is greater need for more clarity and awareness though. Thank you for reading my thoughts on this. And if you or someone you know experienced ECT personally, I would love to read your thoughts in the comment box below.

Joy and clarity

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Writers Block An Obstacle Or Opportunity?

Since the time I was a child I loved to write things down. Whether it was a list of things to do, or thoughts that seem of value to me; poems or a song, I jotted it down on paper.

Oftentimes I had been even writing down things after I went to bed at night. Into my notebook positioned conveniently on the bed-rest. Peculiar as it may sound, it was in total darkness, as I knew the light from my room could potentially alert my parents.

I found some of my writing organized and practical, and some scattered and creative. I realized back then already, that if I wanted to recall some of my thoughts and ideas, which came to me especially at the evening hours, I needed to collect them on paper.

The one skill that proved to become one of my immensely valuable and cherished skills was touch typing, which I learned back in college. And once I learned to transfer thoughts onto a computer screen with a speed of light (almost), my writing took on a different dimension.

While writing can be seen as a rather lonely and personal experience, it’s also way more than that. When we transfer thought process onto some medium, we enable it to become widely available and to spread to other people.

There is often a mysterious touch in many of writings. The mystery is that until I, as the writer, start touching the keys on a keyboard, it’s not very obvious what will come out of it.

You could call writing an art, if you like. As before the piece is written, it sits somewhere in the collective space, awaiting creative discovery.

What about the writer’s block?

There could be variety of reasons why a writer experiences a writer’s block. Just a simple change in life circumstances can lead to a block in the flow of writing. My block came after some unforeseen events considering my mental health, and continued for quite a while, not getting addressed.

The fact that I was feeling truly uninspired to write anything down was really a change for me. The thought process behind this block was something on the lines of ‘not knowing enough to share’; ‘not being as great as I seemed’ and just feeling down generally.

What helped me personally to get out of this self-absorbed situation was one video that I watched not too long ago. The message that stuck with me from this video was about the consistency skill of real writers. Writing no matter what. Even if one doesn’t feel like there is actually something to write about, write anyway.

I took on this little challenge with myself and decided to get back into writing more regularly than in the last few years. And while my current writing may not yet be (at least in my eyes) so content rich, I am feeling good about the simple change in the process.

The soft touch of the keys I type on, the jerked flow of ideas, each sentence that comes into life, the proverbial electronic smell of freshly printed words on paper….all that gives me some form of satisfaction.

So if I was to give any prospective or stuck writer a hand with their flow, it would be this:

Sit down every day at your computer, respectively with a real paper and pen. Open the notepad and close your eyes for a brief moment. Relax your thought process and hands. Take a deep breath. Ask for a title to come to you. Once it does, open your eyes. Write down the title. And as you do that, some words may pop through….continue writing them….persevere…correct as you go along…adjust your writing…continue…

Write a few paragraphs every day and make it a consistent habit. Flow will come with more practice.

Enjoy this creative art form and share your ideas with the world. There is always space for one more article, in the world of internet. 🙂

How Can I Have It All And Still Be Unhappy?

I have heard it many times before, if only in my mind. What do YOU have to complain about? You have all one can ask for, and more, yet you are still feeling down at times.

How is that possible?

Yes, in my past, I had made some rather defining life choices, which led me to live in a country with almost constant sunshine all year round. That alone should keep a smile on my face constantly, if nothing else.

And then as I compare my life situation with people who live in parts of the world where there is no running water, where there is no sanitation or where there is not enough fresh food, I have to feel more blessed again.

So where is this underlying un-satisfaction coming from?

The unhappiness comes from deep down inside, where I know that there is more to me than what I’m currently exhibiting. For so long I have been fed the phrase ‘unlimited potential’ that I later started to believe it. And then the unfulfilled feelings came in.

When I developed the so called ‘mental illness’ in the later years and by being repeatedly told how serious it was, it started to affect me and eventually I started to believe it.

I started to look for and see evidence of my disabilities in my every day life. It seemed that I am not as capable as other people around me. I would see others and think to myself: I wish I was that confident. I wish I was such a good communicator. I wish it was so easy to make friends for me. I wish I had more to say. I wish I had such a good memory. I wish I could I wish I could… just be myself and be accepted.

Then I realized something important. The problem is not so much with wanting to be better than I perceive of myself. The main issue lied in the fact, that I have been craving other people’s acceptance, whereas not accepting myself fully the way I am!

As they say: ‘You can’t give of what you do not have first.

So on that note, here goes a fresh affirmation, to uplift my (and your if you like) self and to find the strength to be who I am, no matter what:

“I am who I am and that is good enough. I am good the way I am. There is more to me than I currently experience, and that is ok. I don’t need to be anyone different to be myself. I am full of light and I am loved. Events are unfolding according to universal principles, which I am part of. I know all is well and I am looked after on all levels. In every moment I get what I need for my Well-being and joy. All comes at the right time. I allow experiences to fill me up. My destiny is fluid and changeable. There is nowhere to go, nothing to achieve. Life flows.”

Who Defines Your Future?

Some moments in time we will feel up on the clouds and some other moments, perhaps right after the first moments, we might feel like the clouds don’t have the proverbial silver lining.

What defines each situation that we encounter on a daily basis? From my experience and knowledge acquired, I can say that each and every situation is not defined by the obvious components itself. It’s not what happens to us, yet it’s our reaction to it.

Yes, what happens is one part of the story. That’s the beginning. And then, what we do about it and how we respond is the main precursor in each scenario.

Now, what defines our response reaches deeper under our skin. Our response in each situation is governed by our personal beliefs, our values and our thoughts about the meaning of each situation.

Let’s presume that we both have been presented with a very similar course of events. Let’s say that we are both faced with some serious illness.

Now, you might be brought up in a different belief system regarding health and treatment of illness, than I. And while we both might believe in the healing power of human body to some extend, one of us might rely on its ability to heal utterly and without assistance, while the other person would choose a medical intervention. Our values, which are the factors that drive our decision-making, could also be different.

What you and I believe about medical intervention in response to the illness could be so vastly different, that the outcome of the situation we both have been facing might also be totally unrelated.

The reason why I’m stating this example is to show that our destiny is not etched in stone. There is a saying that ‘We are the masters of our destiny’. I would agree with this statement to a larger extend.

What happens to us is one thing. Maybe there is not much we can do about getting ill from time to time. Let’s assume that it’s so. However, what we do about it, when we are presented with the problem, is our choice.

Now, let me say, that I consider each side of the decision valid. Whether one person chooses medical treatment and the other person chooses natural treatment of illness, there is no judgement. Whether we would see their choice as right or wrong is only a matter of opinion. They however, have a right to make a choice based on their own values and beliefs.

Who says what experience in life is more valid? Who is the judge of that?

We are all here now and we will all die at some point in time. That’s the only certainty. So what we are choosing in life, as it progresses, is shaping our experience of now and the future.

And what would our individual life be worth, if it was not for our diverse experiences?

Self Image By Design

Let the sound of your breath guide you into the Abby’s of your internal environment. Let the mind ponder, let it jump, let it slow down, just for a brief breath, let it be still. Just for a moment. And then let it move again. Slow and fast, and slow and fast. And still again for another split moment when we experience the depth of eternity.

We are often here, breathing, yet not being present. Rarely we are being in the body, when so often the inclination of too many is to escape the prevalent discomfort through the faculty of the mind. Whether it’s the discomfort of physical feelings or uncomfortable emotions, we tend to fly away with the trickster that we have been given, our mind.

Having not yet mastered the faculty of imagination to a greater extend, we steep our mental pictures in repetitive worries, rather than enabling the creativity of new ideas.

Am I talking about you personally? If it feels that way, we have something in common.

We both have been given a gift. It’s more than a simple present. It’s not been wrapped, yet its hard to see it for what it is. Its value is greater than it’s size, yet it is rarely appreciated for what it’s worth.

At the beginning, we both received a breath of life, a body to carry us around and a mind to help us navigate the maze of life.
Now, that already makes for a gift of a lifetime! Mind you, our destiny is not preset by these gifts. The breath of life, the body to go with it and the mind to keep us occupied.

Well, what then shapes our destiny, you might ask? Though these surely are components in the universal equation, the most important particle is this. An intention. Yes, our intention.

The intention that precedes the getting up from bed every morning.  The intention to go with life or go against the flow of it. The intention to continue when the going gets tough.

And one core intention, which we make unconsciously, yet which is the most profound and most influential decision that we do make about anything. That is, the intent of ‘Who we are in each given day‘. Whether that is consistent or often changing, whether that is something we like being or who we don’t like to be.

Whether we put others on a pedestal and feel inadequate in comparison, or when we put on a pedestal our own self-image of who we NEED to be, to be good enough, we do us a disservice. The persona that is on the pedestal, is the problem that we have.

Can you relate? I certainly can. My persona on the pedestal is larger than life and so it’s seemingly impossible for me to match up to it. The problem is, that while I look up at the person that I have created as an ideal of myself, the better version of myself; the gap between who I see myself as and who stares at me from the screen is so large, that it feels absolutely impossible for me to merge the gap. Ever.

That my friend, is a huge self-d’-image issue. Are you still with me? Do you have a creeping suspicion, that what you want to become and where you are now are impossible to bridge? Welcome to my personal experience. 🙂

Now, a swap of hats….this is exactly the situation for a good Life Coach.

My personal Life Coach would be here to tell me, that it’s simple a matter of clarifying my end goal and then designing a plan to get there, step by step.

That sounds simple enough, and that is because it CAN BE just that simple. Time to re-adjust my life journey…join me if you are in the same boat.

Looking for suggestions?

  • Make a moment of silence or with soothing relaxing music.
  • Close your eyes and concentrate on your breath.
  • Stay focused on your breath. In and out, in and out….
  • After about 5 -10 minutes of breathing exercise, ask yourself a question:
    “Who do I want to be and what makes this person great?”

Take a pen and paper, if you like, and write down all that comes to you after you asked that question.

Reassess your current self-image and the answered image. Make a plan of actions to reach your ideal self. Get someone to hold you accountable.

Live your life.