THE SECRET GUIDE TO HEALTHY AND HAPPY 2019

While some are still recovering from last night’s celebrations now is a great time to look at the secret truths for a healthy and happy new year.

Everything that happens in our life isn’t easily predicted or expected. We might go through situations and experiences that might seem challenging, and some even cruel lessons from life and perhaps seem unjust and unfair in that moment.

There are however some coping strategies which help with each situation and its management. Let’s put down some ground work for the healthy and happy year 2019.

1. Whatever happens in our life will change. Nothing stays the same.

Whether it be a situation or an experience that we perceive as negative, unwanted or even unfair to us, it will pass. There is something healing about the essence that we call TIME. It has a magical properties. Whether we think of time as a construct or the real thing, we all live ‘through time’.

2. All is in motion and therefore changes form and shape.

From the above first statement spans this second one. Everything on Earth and beyond is based on an energetic movement. Just as the motion of life. One day we were born, we move through life and we might transform into another form of energetic being the last day on this Earth. When we think of the planets, we perceive them as stationary with a naked eye, however they are all living moving changing objects. When we look at natural environment in general, there is all this motion about it that we call ‘life’.

3. There is no other or better time than NOW.

Focusing on the past experiences and situations steals the magic NOW from our existence. Living in each moment fully brings forward unexpected clarity and peace. There might be all this commotion in our mind taking us ‘places’ in the past or into the future. Yet, these places don’t really exist. They are just a memory of a past or a concept of the future, all just in our mind.

If we fear something will happen in the future, we are focusing our attention from this moment into the unknown. And when we would resent something or someone from the past, we bring forward some memory that is no longer here in the present moment. Both of these time travels take us away from what is happening now.

4. Nobody else is responsible for our happiness.

“He is to blame! She is to blame! They are to blame! We are to blame!”

Often we could succumb into believing some form of the above statements. How others ‘make us’ feel is not their responsibility. Don’t despair upon hearing that. The liberation from this knowing comes with deeper understanding of this truth. We are liberated once we realize and furthermore practice, that we are the only one who is able to choose to be happy and content, no matter what happens around us.
Yes, it might take practicing. Yes, there are situations that are harder to deal with than others. Yet, it’s well worth the go.

5. Let’s be gentle with ourselves this year.

“Busyness isn’t brave it ends us in a grave.”

There is so much to do! So much to accomplish! So much to learn! And so little time!

Well, if your mental stimulation involves the above notion you need to hear this now.

A baby is full of joy when playing and has no concept of time. An average civilized adult has ‘so much on their plate’ on a regular basis that they struggle to find the time to breathe well. And a mature adult, who is close to the end of their time on Earth, often realizes the truth that the struggle of a too busy life led nowhere in particular. All the worldly possessions all pointless at the end. We can’t take them with us.

So what is the solution in this busyness praising world? Come to understand life’s obvious secrets.

Air, water, food, love all we need to live a happy life. There are cultures we can still learn from, which have as little as some rain water and some bush food, yet they don’t know the word hate or greed. And looking at their facial expressions we can see that they have more happy laughter lines than some of their more ‘civilized’ counterparts.

6. Make a space in your life for the ‘me time’.

Prioritize ‘me time’. Put it on the top of your ‘to do list’ for this year. Pick your favorite essential oil, switch on the diffuser and if you can’t stand pure silence, put on some relaxing natural sounds.

And then just sit there and breathe. You could call it a meditation if you like. You don’t need to give it a name though. Just relax and be in the present moment. Mindful of where you are, focus on the sense of smell, enjoy the favorite essence of the oil and then just focus on your nostrils and breathing style.

If you have already been doing some form of meditative practice, good for you. Keep going with it or try a new style and see if you like it too.

7. Share your life energy and presence with others.

Sometimes people might come to us with an issue and we might feel that we need to tell them something wise or give an advice. To help them, to assist, to teach them, to show them how to…

What might be better received and needed by that person is our best energetic presence.

When we are in a presence of a caring person, who listens to our stories, there is nothing more healing. No words can heal as much as genuine caring. The act of active listening and the calm balanced presence is all that is needed. Often we overstimulate our brains with knowledge and unnecessary advice sharing.

8. Be appreciative of life’s moments

If you like to keep a journal, write down all the things you can recall that brought you or someone you met some joy in life. Be positively geared towards more good coming your way.

There is truth in the saying that:
“If you are grateful, there will be more things to be grateful for.”

Saying that, if we are grateful for the sake of getting more ‘stuff’, that is a better way to go about it. Appreciation is a quality that can be developed, of a deeper understanding of the pure magic called the GIFT of life.

9. We attract to our life what we focus on.

Now this truth can be a tad hard to accept for some of us. Until the light bulb switches on and we truly understand the truth in it we can fight with it all we want.

The science proves to us that we have a part of the back of our brain, which is called RAS (Reticular Activating System). What this brain function does is this. First time we put our attention on something, the automatic response of this RAS part is switched on and does search and sift through all the possibilities available to find more evidence of the same.

Ever saw something ‘rarely seen’ for the first time? Then suddenly, you saw the same thing much more often than before? Your RAS helped you to bring the evidence of the same thing out of the unknown into the visible.

It can help to point out that to be able to sift through all the available input data (sounds, smells, feel, tastes and visual images) that are coming at us every second from the outside world, human kind needed to develop a filtering mechanism to keep our conscious mind in order.

That is why researchers say that we can only absorb 2+/- chunks of data coming at us at any given moment. Out of the billions out there.

10. There are no coincidences as such.

All is a very well organized chaos. And by that I mean to state that the serendipity that we can often see in life is real and there for a reason. And yet, to give us the proverbial reigns I will add: “We are the co-creators of our destinies.

When we put our full focus and energy upon something there is no stopping us. And all the events and people align with our vision and energy.

Integrate the above knowing into a happy and healthy life existence in 2019 and beyond.

May these guiding truths bring us closer to our true wisdom and clarity.

Sharing my piece of mind with a peace of heart.

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SOLUTIONS RATHER THAN PROBLEMS

There are people who are able to see solutions before they even see anything closely related to a problem. And then there are others, who can ONLY see the problem. They actually see the problem in such a detail, that they create way more problems from the first one.

Now, I don’t know which one you relate to. You are blessed, if you can see yourself in the first scenario, being the person, who sees solutions rather than seeing problems. Frankly, I have been many times the problem seeker, who is in the second pool of people.

When something is presented to me as a grand idea my mind straight away does the following. It immediately starts to create the worst case scenarios and see all the problems associated with what could go wrong. Don’t get me wrong. This type of mental activity can be quite productive and helpful at times. For example when one needs to troubleshoot to test all the possible scenarios before execution of an idea. Well, then the thinking style that I learned can bring some needed warnings and perhaps even solutions that are good for the situation.

However, in the general scheme of things, it’s not exactly the most helpful of mental activities. The way things get done and how creations get created is by people I would call visionaries having a grand vision, usually beyond their time. When someone like that comes to an idea that is larger than their life, or perhaps at least larger than what the current reality is presenting to them, they start to fire up their mind with positive exciting activity. Creating a mental picture of the vision in a detail and as it would have already happened now.

One such person I can think of for the illustration purposes is Elon Musk. Most people at least heard of Elon. He is one of the, if not the greatest of, visionaries of our era. I definitely applaud and admire Elon’s perseverance and higher vision. And to drive the point home, he is not only a visionary, but gets stuff completed and on the roads.

My question to you and me now is: Are you a visionary? Or are you a whinge-nary?

Well, most of us would love to see ourselves as the first option. And if you happen to be in the whinge-nary category at the current moment, please note this.

Unless we recognize our own shortcomings, we are unable to best deal with them. It’s only when we come to realization that our mind is ‘soft’ wired to work in certain way, to create more problems, only since then we get the opportunity to change that.

There is still time to change. The first step on the way to change is awareness.

So rejoice as now you and I have an opportunity to recreate our mind to our desired way of thinking and being.

If you have some doubt, do some research about the science in the Neuroplasticity of the brain.

Until your next thought.

Alternative to Alcoholic beverages

WHEN ALCOHOL STARTED TO MAKE SENSE

If you think that this is another one of my confessions following the last few articles, you might be surprised. Yes, I am going to speak about drinking of alcohol and when it all started to make sense. However, it won’t be the story about getting sober after a night of drinking…

What I want to ponder about today with you is the following. The reasons for drinking of alcohol may seem to vary between individuals. Often having some form of alcoholic drink is seen as a nice touch to a well prepared meal.  Then there are occasions, like celebrations of any kind, where alcohol plays its celebrity status. And the last but not least of the groups of alcohol drinking occasions are those days and moments when people are just drinking for the sake of getting drunk.

So what about alcohol is so elusively attractive? I would like to share with you my discovery on alcohol drinking.

It’s not the fact, that it tastes good (which in most cases it DOESN’T, until one gets used to it, or drunk enough). It’s not even the fact, that it’s the drink of choice when socializing with others and we are often influenced by other peers to a drink.

The attractiveness of alcohol is simple.

It is the power of this etheric substance that brings our mind out of the controlling role and takes us away from our day to day issues. Most people, when they drink alcohol (perhaps a bit more than a half of a glass) start to feel like their troubles start to wash away; they become more confident in their expression and speech; their behavior starts to be more open and expressive.

Now, I will say that all of the above characteristics are not typical behavior for the person. They will show, however, their true personality traits revealed. The good, the bad, the ugly. All of it at once, sometimes.

When did alcohol start to make sense?

To answer that I will choose my own way of putting it. Alcohol made sense, because it is the ‘shortcut’, respectively a ‘quick fix’ to the feelings that people are yearning for. The feelings of joy; connection to something greater than themselves; acceptance of who they are; being in the moment; not having to worry about a single thing. The essence of alcohol drinking is to numb the controlling, nagging, always present conscious mind!

So saying all of the above, as a non-alcohol beverages drinker, I would like to offer an alternative to alcohol drinking. Can you relate to the above words and find alcohol relaxing? Then I would recommend you to try some form of relaxation, that doesn’t involve damage to your brain cells and slow destruction of your organs.

One of my suggested options to alcohol could be to try some non-alcoholic fermented drinks, for example Kombucha. That would be first step that would allow you to still enjoy the acquired taste of something tart and fizzy, without the side effects of alcohol consumption.

The next step would be to look at your thought patterns, in a way of self-discovery (read up on CBT if you like) and finding the reason behind the need to drink. And then find some relaxing music (that doesn’t make you emotionally charged), simple meditation or just plain rain drops or bird sounds to keep your mind occupied in a better way than drinking of alcohol.

And the last tip I would give you. If you feel pressure from your peers to have a drink as a social gesture, please find other friends. If that is not possible, be the friend that brings in a few bottles of Kombucha and offer it to others as an alternative to alcohol (perhaps not even saying that it’s non-alcoholic if you prefer).

Sober and joyous life.