THE SECRET GUIDE TO HEALTHY AND HAPPY 2019

While some are still recovering from last night’s celebrations now is a great time to look at the secret truths for a healthy and happy new year.

Everything that happens in our life isn’t easily predicted or expected. We might go through situations and experiences that might seem challenging, and some even cruel lessons from life and perhaps seem unjust and unfair in that moment.

There are however some coping strategies which help with each situation and its management. Let’s put down some ground work for the healthy and happy year 2019.

1. Whatever happens in our life will change. Nothing stays the same.

Whether it be a situation or an experience that we perceive as negative, unwanted or even unfair to us, it will pass. There is something healing about the essence that we call TIME. It has a magical properties. Whether we think of time as a construct or the real thing, we all live ‘through time’.

2. All is in motion and therefore changes form and shape.

From the above first statement spans this second one. Everything on Earth and beyond is based on an energetic movement. Just as the motion of life. One day we were born, we move through life and we might transform into another form of energetic being the last day on this Earth. When we think of the planets, we perceive them as stationary with a naked eye, however they are all living moving changing objects. When we look at natural environment in general, there is all this motion about it that we call ‘life’.

3. There is no other or better time than NOW.

Focusing on the past experiences and situations steals the magic NOW from our existence. Living in each moment fully brings forward unexpected clarity and peace. There might be all this commotion in our mind taking us ‘places’ in the past or into the future. Yet, these places don’t really exist. They are just a memory of a past or a concept of the future, all just in our mind.

If we fear something will happen in the future, we are focusing our attention from this moment into the unknown. And when we would resent something or someone from the past, we bring forward some memory that is no longer here in the present moment. Both of these time travels take us away from what is happening now.

4. Nobody else is responsible for our happiness.

“He is to blame! She is to blame! They are to blame! We are to blame!”

Often we could succumb into believing some form of the above statements. How others ‘make us’ feel is not their responsibility. Don’t despair upon hearing that. The liberation from this knowing comes with deeper understanding of this truth. We are liberated once we realize and furthermore practice, that we are the only one who is able to choose to be happy and content, no matter what happens around us.
Yes, it might take practicing. Yes, there are situations that are harder to deal with than others. Yet, it’s well worth the go.

5. Let’s be gentle with ourselves this year.

“Busyness isn’t brave it ends us in a grave.”

There is so much to do! So much to accomplish! So much to learn! And so little time!

Well, if your mental stimulation involves the above notion you need to hear this now.

A baby is full of joy when playing and has no concept of time. An average civilized adult has ‘so much on their plate’ on a regular basis that they struggle to find the time to breathe well. And a mature adult, who is close to the end of their time on Earth, often realizes the truth that the struggle of a too busy life led nowhere in particular. All the worldly possessions all pointless at the end. We can’t take them with us.

So what is the solution in this busyness praising world? Come to understand life’s obvious secrets.

Air, water, food, love all we need to live a happy life. There are cultures we can still learn from, which have as little as some rain water and some bush food, yet they don’t know the word hate or greed. And looking at their facial expressions we can see that they have more happy laughter lines than some of their more ‘civilized’ counterparts.

6. Make a space in your life for the ‘me time’.

Prioritize ‘me time’. Put it on the top of your ‘to do list’ for this year. Pick your favorite essential oil, switch on the diffuser and if you can’t stand pure silence, put on some relaxing natural sounds.

And then just sit there and breathe. You could call it a meditation if you like. You don’t need to give it a name though. Just relax and be in the present moment. Mindful of where you are, focus on the sense of smell, enjoy the favorite essence of the oil and then just focus on your nostrils and breathing style.

If you have already been doing some form of meditative practice, good for you. Keep going with it or try a new style and see if you like it too.

7. Share your life energy and presence with others.

Sometimes people might come to us with an issue and we might feel that we need to tell them something wise or give an advice. To help them, to assist, to teach them, to show them how to…

What might be better received and needed by that person is our best energetic presence.

When we are in a presence of a caring person, who listens to our stories, there is nothing more healing. No words can heal as much as genuine caring. The act of active listening and the calm balanced presence is all that is needed. Often we overstimulate our brains with knowledge and unnecessary advice sharing.

8. Be appreciative of life’s moments

If you like to keep a journal, write down all the things you can recall that brought you or someone you met some joy in life. Be positively geared towards more good coming your way.

There is truth in the saying that:
“If you are grateful, there will be more things to be grateful for.”

Saying that, if we are grateful for the sake of getting more ‘stuff’, that is a better way to go about it. Appreciation is a quality that can be developed, of a deeper understanding of the pure magic called the GIFT of life.

9. We attract to our life what we focus on.

Now this truth can be a tad hard to accept for some of us. Until the light bulb switches on and we truly understand the truth in it we can fight with it all we want.

The science proves to us that we have a part of the back of our brain, which is called RAS (Reticular Activating System). What this brain function does is this. First time we put our attention on something, the automatic response of this RAS part is switched on and does search and sift through all the possibilities available to find more evidence of the same.

Ever saw something ‘rarely seen’ for the first time? Then suddenly, you saw the same thing much more often than before? Your RAS helped you to bring the evidence of the same thing out of the unknown into the visible.

It can help to point out that to be able to sift through all the available input data (sounds, smells, feel, tastes and visual images) that are coming at us every second from the outside world, human kind needed to develop a filtering mechanism to keep our conscious mind in order.

That is why researchers say that we can only absorb 2+/- chunks of data coming at us at any given moment. Out of the billions out there.

10. There are no coincidences as such.

All is a very well organized chaos. And by that I mean to state that the serendipity that we can often see in life is real and there for a reason. And yet, to give us the proverbial reigns I will add: “We are the co-creators of our destinies.

When we put our full focus and energy upon something there is no stopping us. And all the events and people align with our vision and energy.

Integrate the above knowing into a happy and healthy life existence in 2019 and beyond.

May these guiding truths bring us closer to our true wisdom and clarity.

Sharing my piece of mind with a peace of heart.

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THE SECRET FOR NEVER ENDING SUCCESS AND EVER LASTING HAPPINESS

Have you been wondering what a key for success is?

Did you ever think “When I get xy …It will make me happy?”

Whether we look at our activities, our relationships, our finances or our personal achievement there is one common denominator.

We first need to define what we consider to be SUCCESS and even what does HAPPY mean to us. My personal definition of success is not so much what I GET, but rather who I AM and more still WHO I BECOME in the process of doing something. The becoming is the most important part.  And what does happy mean? Happiness for me is e.g. a leisurely walk on the beach, in a great company. The fresh sea air, pleasant water temperature and no jellyfish or stone-fish in sight.

I would like to point out some common misconceptions relating to mistakes we can make about our striving for success and happiness.

AVOID COMMON MISTAKES

Often times we happen to get our eyes on an object (be it a material item of any kind, or a person) and we then start to feel that we will only be successful/happy if we achieve the acquisition of this object.

Now let me share something with you. What I understood from the variety of teachings from personal development, spirituality, therapy and healing modalities that I have researched over the years…is this.

There is NOT a material thing, nor a person out there, who would bring us the never ending happiness and forever lasting success.

Please understand. There are many people who cross our life paths, some of whom we might believe can make us forever happy. And many items, that we cherish and value and which can be useful and even just pleasant to have. However, what I am talking about is the feeling of success and happiness that are NEVER ENDING = LASTING. Is that possible at all?

I will give you an example.

Say you finally found the person you fall in love with. You are both in love with each other and feel at the top of the world. When one day later on, in the life of you two, there comes difference of opinions about something that may seem rather fundamental. Is your love strong enough to withstand the difference of ideas and opinions? Or are your mental observations so important that you would rather trow in the towel into the ring of the relationship?

At that time, where is the level of your happiness and success that you so very much felt at the beginning of the relationship?

Here is another illustrative example:

For a very long time you dream about having something. Let’s say it’s a certain car. You have been putting it out there into the Universe, asking to be the new owner of that car. You dream about having this car and how happy you would be when you own that car. Then the day actually comes, when you do have the opportunity to get this car. You are over the moon and so happy that you realized that dream. You want to share your happiness with everyone.

However, the happiness doesn’t last forever. After a while the so new attributes of this car become everyday use and even ordinary. You start to crave something new, which now seems to be just the perfect thing to make you happy… Can you start to see the pattern?

Even if you believe that this is the final missing part, it never is that way!

WHAT IS THE SECRET DOOR TO HAPPINESS AND SUCCESS?

Is there such a ‘thing’ as never ending happiness and ever-lasting success?

You may have answered ‘Yes’ or ‘No’ to the above question. I would like to suggest that there indeed is a way.

What I would suggest is that we start from within. Before we set our eyes on something ‘that would surely make us happy’, we first find the best possible feeling of happiness inside. Let’s start from the point of being happy, and then look at things with fresh perspective. Not as something we NEED to get in life to BECOME happy or a success.

In case that you are struggling with the idea of being happy in the first place, try this out.

THE HAPPINESS INDULGENCE

Sit in a quiet place, or put on a meditative music or a calm piano music and close your eyes.

Think back to the time when you were really happy… First event like that that comes to mind.

In your memories, return to the place where you were back then and think about what was happening at the time around you.

Recall as much detail as possible. What were you doing, was anyone else there, what was the weather like, what environment was surrounding you.

How do you feel?

Now, in this moment, you might be very close to feeling the same feeling like back then…and if so, the same chemical reaction is happening in your body.

This happiness evoking is what we might call ‘The Happiness Indulgence’.

Do this exercise as often as you like. You might start to feel better straight away, or perhaps after the second time you try this. That is all fine. Give it a go and be happy as often as you can recall.

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And if you still seek the never ending success and ever-lasting happiness, start with the above exercise. After you already FEEL HAPPY consider it to be the one great success to start with.

From an empowered and uplifted mind, life will be easier.