WHY COACHES NEED COACHES

Today I had a very long and productive discussion with my friendly ‘life coach’. We first sat down for only a short chat and a cuppa. Then many hours later we were still fully immersed in our conversation. It was an emotion filled roller coaster ride.

I absolutely hated and loved it at the same time, as it was intense in stages and I don’t like me being intense with others, especially people I respect and like. However, this talk was also very reassuring and encouraging for me as I had some significant aha moments through it. Not to bog you down in the details, I redefined and reorganized some of my own values and priorities, limiting beliefs and fears. Now, that in itself was a very valuable lesson.

Afterwards, we reconciled what was most important from the session and I went away assured knowing clearly that my ‘coach friend’ also had a lot of aha moments for themselves. It was a meeting from heaven to hell and back on track.

My learning from this is, besides the above mentioned point of our conversation, that even coaches need coaches to show us the blind spots and sometimes pure lies we have been believing. Whether it be about our own abilities, skills, perceptions, beliefs or opinions. Having a life coach can help in every situation. Having my ‘coach’ meet me today, when I did need them even without knowing really why at the start, showed me something else as well. How we might sometimes live life without being aware when we need to ask for help. Also how a different perspective and respect can do miracles.

Life coaching can help us to get to the many aha moments in our life story. To bring forth the stuff that is undesirable in us and to recognize our truth. Other person’s perspective can show us the mirror that we need to see for our beliefs, especially those that act as a limiting force in our behavior.

So thank you my dear ‘life coach’ for such a great talk today. What we both seem to agreed upon is that we are all in a way guided by greater force than ourselves and both the places we find ourselves going to and people we meet are there for a reason. Sometimes we might not know straight away what the reason is. And connecting this to the bigger picture, it helps us to recognize that this life is truly given to us with a secret underlying guidance.

My recommendation from today is: “If you can’t figure life on your own, find someone to have a deep conversation with.”

Be aware and watch the space between your thoughts.

 

 

 

 

 

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NUDGED TO CREATE RETREATS

I guess this idea has been in the vortex of creation for a long time. To offer day retreats of a kind eventually. The concept was not anything new to me, as I have been pondering about such an idea many years ago. However, only just recently all things fell into place and it clicked.

Last year I co-authored (with a ‘Life Mastery’ Coach Katherine Steevens) and had published the “manual for a happy life”, aka book called “Design your future and create your dream life“. In the making of this book, we had a desire to make a whole program associated with our learnings. At the end of the year 2017, the book was ready for a wider distribution.

Now Katherine and I are in the process of offering our own signature day retreats to small groups of seekers. The process is underway, so if you are interested to learn more about either our upcoming events or our manual for a happy life, follow this site, respectively contact us through the form below.

During these retreats we will share what we learned on our way through life, the techniques that work and the teachings that inspired us to grow. They will be interactive, engaging and empowering. We also aim to initiate growth, which will lead to new opportunities.

If you are feeling inspired, like this post/follow this site/get our book (link above) and spread a word about us.

Focus and awareness.

 

Self Image By Design

Let the sound of your breath guide you into the Abby’s of your internal environment. Let the mind ponder, let it jump, let it slow down, just for a brief breath, let it be still. Just for a moment. And then let it move again. Slow and fast, and slow and fast. And still again for another split moment when we experience the depth of eternity.

We are often here, breathing, yet not being present. Rarely we are being in the body, when so often the inclination of too many is to escape the prevalent discomfort through the faculty of the mind. Whether it’s the discomfort of physical feelings or uncomfortable emotions, we tend to fly away with the trickster that we have been given, our mind.

Having not yet mastered the faculty of imagination to a greater extend, we steep our mental pictures in repetitive worries, rather than enabling the creativity of new ideas.

Am I talking about you personally? If it feels that way, we have something in common.

We both have been given a gift. It’s more than a simple present. It’s not been wrapped, yet its hard to see it for what it is. Its value is greater than it’s size, yet it is rarely appreciated for what it’s worth.

At the beginning, we both received a breath of life, a body to carry us around and a mind to help us navigate the maze of life.
Now, that already makes for a gift of a lifetime! Mind you, our destiny is not preset by these gifts. The breath of life, the body to go with it and the mind to keep us occupied.

Well, what then shapes our destiny, you might ask? Though these surely are components in the universal equation, the most important particle is this. An intention. Yes, our intention.

The intention that precedes the getting up from bed every morning.  The intention to go with life or go against the flow of it. The intention to continue when the going gets tough.

And one core intention, which we make unconsciously, yet which is the most profound and most influential decision that we do make about anything. That is, the intent of ‘Who we are in each given day‘. Whether that is consistent or often changing, whether that is something we like being or who we don’t like to be.

Whether we put others on a pedestal and feel inadequate in comparison, or when we put on a pedestal our own self-image of who we NEED to be, to be good enough, we do us a disservice. The persona that is on the pedestal, is the problem that we have.

Can you relate? I certainly can. My persona on the pedestal is larger than life and so it’s seemingly impossible for me to match up to it. The problem is, that while I look up at the person that I have created as an ideal of myself, the better version of myself; the gap between who I see myself as and who stares at me from the screen is so large, that it feels absolutely impossible for me to merge the gap. Ever.

That my friend, is a huge self-d’-image issue. Are you still with me? Do you have a creeping suspicion, that what you want to become and where you are now are impossible to bridge? Welcome to my personal experience. 🙂

Now, a swap of hats….this is exactly the situation for a good Life Coach.

My personal Life Coach would be here to tell me, that it’s simple a matter of clarifying my end goal and then designing a plan to get there, step by step.

That sounds simple enough, and that is because it CAN BE just that simple. Time to re-adjust my life journey…join me if you are in the same boat.

Looking for suggestions?

  • Make a moment of silence or with soothing relaxing music.
  • Close your eyes and concentrate on your breath.
  • Stay focused on your breath. In and out, in and out….
  • After about 5 -10 minutes of breathing exercise, ask yourself a question:
    “Who do I want to be and what makes this person great?”

Take a pen and paper, if you like, and write down all that comes to you after you asked that question.

Reassess your current self-image and the answered image. Make a plan of actions to reach your ideal self. Get someone to hold you accountable.

Live your life.